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Jen McGowan's avatar

Ahhh. Finally found a moment to read this. I had been trying to get my head around starting a research proposal for school, which is - as you know - about motherhood and invisible labour, esp since the pandemic. But the other day I drove into Vancouver's downtown east side, which is the most desperate place. I hadn't been for a long time, and it was about twice as bad as it had been the last time I really encountered it. Since then, a part of me thinks, forget Motherhood, those are the people that need your energy and advocacy. And I also felt foolish 'complaining' about these aspects of motherhood that are oppressive when me and my family have it pretty good. I appreciate getting brought back into frame through your writing. Now I am on a search for how our general lack of action around homelessness, addiction and mental health care is related to our devaluing of motherhood.

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Eleanor Burke's avatar

"In Mourning and In Rage" could sum up most of my adult life.

I'm forwarding this one to a friend who became a mother during the pandemic w/ very little support (and to a baby born with complications, making her postpartum ever more vulnerable and tenuous); she told me recently that motherhood has gutted her. Which, TOTALLY makes sense. Meanwhile, she's gas lit regularly from her family, who seem to have little ability to drop into and empathize with, what I think she is really grappling with, which are, mourning and rage.

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