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This piece has stuck with me; reading it was impactful. I most certainly see my Mom in those questions. I love the hegemonic challenge that each/all of the questions puts forth.

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Thanks Monica ❤️

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May 16Liked by Amanda Montei

THIS!! “What if she didn’t regret motherhood at all, even though there sure were times when it felt impossible, and in fact she loved being a mother so much, that she was no longer interested in men or marriage or the whole economy of sex she grew up inside, and just wanted to lean into the soft joy of female friendships? What if her empathy for men ran out, so she left her husband, who was one of the good ones? What if she loved women?”

I’ve been writing a poem about my head comparing emotionally unavailable men to crocs. This piece finally pushed it out. Enjoy!

Like a Crocodile

Like a crocodile underwater

swims the emotionally unreachable

man: peaceful seeming

and calculated. Quietly gliding

until suddenly

he has brought the Springbok

to her knees. Repenting her thirst as

she watches her shoreline disappear, they tumble under his surface,

into his satisfaction, into her death.

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May 16Liked by Amanda Montei

*I’ve been writing a poem IN my head ABOUT emotionally unavailable men 🫡🤭

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Love this!! 🐊

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deletedMay 13Liked by Amanda Montei
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Ugh I am SO sorry that happened to you. And I’d like this last line framed!

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