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Reading this makes me wonder...why not just say 'no' to these apps? If women who came of age in the 90s/2000s were made to feel pigeonholed by 'Girls Gone Wild', what led them to download a bevy of apps to track their every movement and every bodily function, which is another kind of pigeonholing? Was it peer pressure? Or is it possibly class-related? Some combination of the two? I'm going to sound like an old lady here (I'm in my mid-50s), but the way I tracked my period in my 20s and 30s was using a paper calendar. No advertiser was able to track me and sell other products/apps to me, and I feel lucky for that. (Of course, when I was in my 20s smartphones weren't around yet.) When I got pregnant at 32, I did sign up on one of those sites that sent a weekly email about the stages of fetus development, which was fun and fascinating for me until I started getting a barrage of other emails trying to sell me high-end baby gear and supplements. I came to the conclusion that the weekly email wasn't telling me anything I couldn't find in the two or three pregnancy books I'd bought, so I unsubcribed. The spammy ads kept coming, so I gave up and ditched that email address for another, but that worked...I was free!

For my cohort, it was the Porky's franchise & the John Hughes movies that tried to pigeonhole what a young woman should "be" and left a lot of us uncomfortable and wary. It seems like every era's popular culture does this. So the question becomes, what do you do with those feelings? How do we (individually/collectively) call bullshit on the bullshit? It seems like a good start for this particular era is to opt out of the apps and reclaim what privacy we have left. Sure, an app is more convenient than a paper calendar, but what is the longterm cost? Could it be that the cult of convenience is a trap? I liken it to AI being pushed into everything--the human cost (AI trained on an author's work without permission or compensation; jobs being eliminated or devalued by AI) and environmental (each AI search wastes 16 ounces of water)--why are we just supposed to "accept" that this is the way things are? Because the tech overlords say so? Fuck that noise.

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