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Melinda Wenner Moyer's avatar

My favorite conversation regarding my divorce happened in an airport bar. I told a woman (a total stranger) that I had just gotten separated and she said, with so much glee in her voice, "Oh! Congratulations!" I was like, damn straight, that's the right response!

Amanda Montei's avatar

I love this! She clearly gets it.

Louise's avatar

OMG I wish I’d read this two decades ago!! So glad to have read it now. Thank you for writing and sharing. I am wishing you a future full of light. ❤️

Victoria Livingstone's avatar

This is great as usual. I’ve just shared it with several friends.

Diana Lee's avatar

Beautifully said. While I choose to continue to be married, I also know I wouldn’t be able to separate if I wanted or needed to because my physical limitations don’t allow me to make money to live on. Like so many, my fate is dependent on my partner’s continued altruism.

Amanda Montei's avatar

Marriage is, sadly, our safety net in this country.

Maryrose Smyth's avatar

So good. Choose you! Choose life!

Elizabeth's avatar

I was divorced twice before kids and my current marriage. I generally say "I'm sorry you're going through this" because even in the best and most collaborative of circumstances, the legal stuff is A PAIN and takes way longer than you'd expect and involves so many small cruelties.